Questions · Human Questions
Why does wanting more control over life make me more anxious?
Direct answer
Because control demands that the future unfold the way you already know it now, while life itself keeps on becoming. The more you rest your safety on "it must be this way, it must not be that way," the more every change in reality feels like it is tearing up your roots. Sheng does not tell you to do nothing; rather, it separates "acting" from "controlling every outcome": you can act, judge, and take responsibility, without pretending that you stand outside the happening and can lock all change in place.
Further explanation
Real steadiness is not preparing a set of answers that never go out of date; it is keeping the capacity to give birth to new responses. This is the practical meaning of "meeting ten thousand changes with becoming becoming."
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Conclusions that must not be drawn
Do not write this as fatalism, passive resignation, or "go with the flow, so there is no need to take responsibility."
Related phrasings
Why does wanting more control make me more anxious?Why does the need for control hurt?How do I face a life I cannot control?
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